Why Are Secrets so Hard to Keep? And What Can We Do About it?

Finding a balance between keeping secrets and sharing them is crucial.

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“Three may keep a secret, if two of them are dead.” –Benjamin Franklin

I'm going to let you in on a little secret. I've learned it after years of being an avid reader and observer of human behavior.

Ready for it? Here it goes: People love secrets. They love hearing them, they love keeping them, and they especially love revealing them.

Secrets are a big part of our lives. We have, keep, and share them with only those we trust. The problem is that secrets can be hard to maintain and sometimes even harder to share.

Secrets are often seen as a way to differentiate oneself from otindividual’sr, they can also have negative consequences on an individual’s well-being.

This is because secrets can cause people to feel shame, guilt, and worry. They also can create a feeling of isolation that can lead to depression. People must find ways to share their secrets to counteract these adverse effects.