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Being “Friends” on Facebook Doesn’t Mean We are!

Being “Friends” on Facebook Doesn’t Mean We are!

Respect limits and boundaries, for god sake!

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Alejandro Betancourt
Jan 24, 2022
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Imagine you met me at a conference eight or more years ago, where we spent five days together with approximately 30–40 other individuals. It’s been years since we’ve spoken, and out of the blue, I contacted you on Facebook to begin a discussion about your divorce that happened a couple of years ago. What would you do?

This just happened to me. I haven’t been through a divorce, though. It’s only a metaphor for an intimate thing that this person wanted me to disclose.

I can’t believe how entitled some people are and how bold they are in asking for it. I would never be so callous.

Even if we were close and it happened recently, I wouldn’t expect someone to talk about that intimate experience with me. And that’s what this person did: asked me if I would disclose something very personal to them.

But they posed the question in such a way to make themselves seem like the victim should I say no.

I’ve never had an experience like that before. It showed an astoundi…

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